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September 18, 2015 at 3:00 pm #3562
I know not everyone here is from the Green Hollows, so the ridgerunners’ all-consuming passion for fruit (which is well-understood here) may not make perfect sense to everyone. But can you imagine loving something so much that you are willing to do something wrong because of it? If not fruit, maybe cheese, or dogs, or something else.
What would you do, if you were a ridgerunner?
Is it ever okay to do something wrong out of love?
September 21, 2015 at 3:41 pm #3639
I’m not sure I can answer the questions right now without tying my brain in knots, so I’m not. I reserve the right to change my mind later.
But I’m pretty sure that “love” that causes me to do something wrong is something different than the type of love that the Maker intends me to have.
“Love” can mean so many different things, depending on how the word is used, but a lot of the uses are ultimately not about a love for the thing or the other person, but really mean valuing the thing because of how it makes me feel. I “love” books because I enjoy them and they make me feel good. Ultimately, that is a self focused kind of love, even if it seems to be directed outward toward the books. Love for fruit is selfish unless I can equally love the fruit that you enjoy and the fruit that I enjoy. If I only love what I get to eat, it is really self love and not love of fruit at all. I can even have a “love” for other people that works this same way… loving them, not for themselves, but because of what they do for me and how they make me feel. I suspect that type of love is really common, but it is not what I think the Maker means us to have.
September 23, 2015 at 1:10 pm #3665
Those are some very interesting and helpful distinctions—that love for something can actually be love of self. That reminds me of some of the stories in The Great Divorce. The first one that comes to mind is the wife who says she’s sacrificed everything to lift up her husband, but what she means is that she has driven him into the ground trying to change him to be what she wanted him to be. That wasn’t love of him, no matter what she says, or even what she thinks she means in her own heart. The story about the painter is another example. I can’t think of others right now, but I bet there’s a common theme there. A teacher of mine once said that the definition of sin is loving wrongly, and I think there is something to that.
November 29, 2016 at 5:50 pm #10950
My answer to whether it’s okay to do something wrong out of love is: Bonifer Squoon. Gnag, Throg, everything came about because of his “love” for Madia. So, in other words… no, if your love causes you to do or want to do something wrong, it’s probably not love, or at least not the right kind.
That is if we’re talking about the kind of wrong Bonifer did. I guess if you were in love (and young enough not to have your own home, for this example) you might want to do something like, I don’t know, run away from home to be with the person, which would be wrong but not necessarily mean it’s not love.
But wow, Miss Linda, that’s such a good point about selfish love.